So… a year ago, I found this article:
And I mentioned that I should probably write a post about things I find sexy, because people are always amazed by the things I find sexy, because it rarely has anything to do with actual sex, and physical things.
Pick Up Artist
If you wanna guarantee that my stomach does a little flip… pick me up. This is a tricky one for me sometimes, cuz I’m not exactly a tiny thing, so you generally have to possess some strength to get me off the ground. Now, that being said, there are of course levels to the sexiness of it based on the style of pickup.
“over the threshold”,”damsel in distress” pickup.
I know a lot of girls like this traditional style. But, it’s actually not my favorite. I mean, it’s cool, don’t get me wrong, but it always makes me feel like I twisted my ankle or something.
“under the arm” pickup.
This one is slightly better. It has a playful quality to it, but makes me feel like I’m a dancer that just messed up the big lift.
“over the shoulder toss” pickup.
… NOW we’re getting somewhere! Yes… I like my men to have a lil caveman in’m! This pickup is abrupt so always elicits a squeal from the recipient, and I, for one, like to be caught off guard. It also almost ALWAYS comes with an ass slap finisher… and I’m kinda into that.
**sigh**… let’s all pause for a moment of silence.
This is by far top of my lift list. If, as a man, you walk up to me, look me dead in the eye, drop slightly so you can grab the back of my thighs and lift me up…
If you are in front of me and you’re hugging me and you slide your hands down to just beneath my ass and you pick me up and wrap my legs around you… you might as well gon’ and lick both of my X chromosomes… cuz I’m thinking of licking something of yours.
I love chivalry. Always have, and always will. And while I will always admire and appreciate the acts, there’s something ridiculously sexy about a man who is inherently chivalrous. If it comes natural to you to open a door, give up your seat, I automatically see you in a different light. If you give me your arm while we’re walking (especially if I’m in heels) or say “lemme walk you to your car” when I leave…
Okay… so this is a two-parter. No offense to my computer guys… you can be sexy too. However, a man that can, and does, work with his hands… well he can grind my gears anytime. I love guys who build things, fix things, screw things…. drill things…
I might have gotten off topic, but you know what I mean.
Now, the other half of that… I like a man who’s also handy. If you handle something for me, especially something I’m dreading… mmmyessss.
Sexy statements include:
- “I’ll take care of it.”
- “I’ll handle it.”
- “I got you.”
- “You don’t need to worry about that.”
If something is clearly stressing me out, and you’re gonna do what you can to take some of that stress off of me… you’re a sexy beast.
Short Sleeves & Work Gloves
Don’t laugh. I’m dead serious. I’ve done extensive research on this. Something happens inside my body when I see a guy in a t-shirt wearing work gloves. You honestly don’t even have to be WORKING on anything… just walk past… and I’m like “who dat?” I’ve noticed that while a guy in a tank w/gloves is attractive, its not nearly as sexy as the tee/glove combo. I think I might have worked out why.
The combination of the t-shirt and the work glove make the perfect framework for bicep-to-forearm line of sight. It automatically enhances the size and shape of the bicep, while also accentuating the forearms. With the tank, you start getting into shoulder/chest area and it can detract from the sweet spot unless you’re actually Built Ford Tough.
Guys That Can Dance
YES! Just… YES! I don’t even care what style of dance you do. If you can control your body to the rhythm of music… than you can control it to the rhythm of mine… that’s just where my mind goes. It also takes a lot of confidence to dance in front of other people. Confidence is hella sexy. Extra points to guys that do well with partner dances. If you can lead, it’s very likely I’ll follow.
I LOVE a guy that can make me laugh. I mean really laugh. Like, that laugh where you just can’t get yourself together. That laugh where you’re almost embarrassing yourself because it’s so loud and grating and there’s probably a snort or two thrown in. The kind of laugh that just keeps bubbling up even when you think it’s over. The kind of laugh you can’t keep quiet. And when you look over, he’s just smirking at you… looking pleased with himself.
On the flip side of that, I think it’s sexy when a guy is comfortable enough with himself to allow himself to laugh like that around you. Every person has that laugh that they let out when something really tickles them. A guy that lets that out, in all its glory… well, at that moment, he’s sexy.
Notice & Remember
This is another big one for me. I think its incredibly attractive when a guy notices things about me. Now, yes, I think it’s great when a guy notices when I’ve done something with my hair, or if I have on new shoes. But what’s really sexy, is when a guy notices my little quirks and idiosyncrasies. The things I didn’t think anyone but me knew I did.
“What’s wrong? you only _____ when something’s bothering you.”
Showing that you pay attention to more than what’s on the surface is incredibly arousing. I love when a guy can read my facial expressions. It’s a turn-on to be able to have a conversation without speaking. Especially across a room.
It’s sexy when he remembers things about me. It could be the smallest thing. In fact, the smaller the better, in this case. Remember the things I like, and the way I like them and I’m gonna like you.
Do What You’re Good At
Okay… I admit it. I am a complete and total Talent Whore. I think there are very few times where a man is sexier, than when he is doing something he is really good at. You play an instrument well? You’re automatically 75% sexier while doing it than at any other time. You love to draw? Lemme watch you sketch. Guarantee you I’ll have some feels!
It doesn’t really matter what the talent is. When we enjoy something, and we feel like we’re good at it, that’s when the rest of the world gets a glimpse of the full extent of how passionate we can be. And passion… in all its forms… is a turn-on for me.
Yes… we all know intelligence is sexy. It’s hot to have smarts. But, even more than that, I love guys that think. No, I don’t believe those are mutually exclusive. You can know how to do things, you can learn a wide variety of subjects. But life doesn’t fit into square books and neat little boxes. I love a guy that can think his way through things. All too often, life does not do what you plan, expect, or even what it’s supposed to. It’s sexy to watch someone figure his way through a problem, from the simplest repair, to the biggest existential crisis, with nothing but the determination that he’s gonna break through it no matter what it takes.
A smoothly executed wink never fails to mess me up. I’m always looking around, always watching my surroundings. But if a guy catches my eye from across the room and just does a quick, concise wink with a half smile, I automatically let out one of those little breathy giggles… whether I want to or not.
Anybody can drive fast… it’s that pedal on the right. What I love is a GOOD driver. I love a man who knows how to er… handle his machine😉 . Even better if he knows what to do with curves…
I’ve seen a lot of things in my lifetime. I’ve got great instincts (although sadly, when it comes to things concerning me, I constantly second guess them) and have gotten really good at reading people… so honestly, the sexiest thing a man can do… is take me by surprise.